Protecting Your Energy in a Virtual World with Brenda Farrugia of So Brilliant - Episode 267

Important Links:

Get in touch with Brenda Farrugia of So Brilliant:

https://www.sobrilliant.ca/

Subscribe to her YouTube channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC25gV2DFKPRLpSJpelhABnA

Join my Substack:
https://sandykruse.substack.com.

If you want to get in touch, email me sandy@sandyknutrition.ca or sandy@tkgpartners.com

Your energy is not free for the taking.

Discover the hidden ways you might be giving away your personal power in this enlightening conversation with transformational quantum energy healer Brenda Farrugia. As our world becomes increasingly digital, our energetic vulnerabilities multiply – from social media exchanges to virtual healing sessions and beyond.

Ever wondered why certain interactions leave you feeling inexplicably drained? Or why some people seem to need constant physical contact with everyone they meet? Brenda draws from decades of experience to explain the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways energy vampires operate and how to establish protective boundaries without guilt.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn as we explore the world of ethical energy work versus practitioners who may cause harm. Learn the warning signs of someone who might be energetically exploiting you – from pushy payment packages to practitioners claiming to "give you their energy." These critical distinctions could save you from experiences that leave you feeling worse rather than healed.

Most startlingly, we delve into the rarely-discussed topic of energetic vulnerability in digital spaces. Those "say yes to receive energy now" sessions on social media might not be the benign experiences they seem. Brenda reveals why many clients come to her after such interactions feeling "not themselves" and experiencing unexplained disturbances.

Whether you're energy-sensitive or simply curious about strengthening your personal boundaries, this episode offers practical starting points – including a simple 15-minute daily practice that can transform your energetic resilience. Your intuition is speaking. Are you ready to listen?

Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and subscribe to receive fresh insights on holistic wellness every week.

Chapters

• 0:00 Intro & Energy Protection in a Digital World
• 8:56 Meeting Brenda: A Natural Energy Healer
• 19:30 Understanding Energy Connections & Vampires
• 30:40 Warning Signs in Energy Healing Practices
• 42:03 Black Magic, Psychic Attacks & Protection
• 1:04:40 Starting Your Energy Protection Journey
• 1:11:52 Episode Closing & Call to Action

Transcript

Sandy Kruse: 0:02

Hi everyone, it's me, Sandy Kruse of Sandy K Nutrition, health and Lifestyle Queen. For years now, I've been bringing to you conversations about wellness from incredible guests from all over the world. Discover a fresh take on healthy living for midlife and beyond, one that embraces balance and reason without letting only science dictate every aspect of our wellness. Join me and my guests as we explore ways that we can age gracefully, with in-depth conversations about the thyroid, about hormones and other alternative wellness options for you and your family. True Wellness nurtures a healthy body, mind, spirit and soul, and we cover all of these essential aspects to help you live a balanced, joyful life. Be sure to follow my show, rate it, review it and share it. Always remember my friends balanced living works. Friends, balanced living works. Hi everyone, welcome to Sandy Kay Nutrition, health and Lifestyle Queen.

Sandy Kruse: 1:34

Today, my guest is Brenda Faruggia of so Brilliant. Brenda has already been on my podcast. She was on episode 260, quantum Journeys. We talked about energy healing beam therapy, and this week we are talking about how to protect our energy in a world where our energy is so vulnerable. I think this is just such an important conversation, and I think it's even more important now because we don't even realize where we are actually having an energy exchange, because we live in this virtual world a lot of the time, and so Brenda and I are going to actually break this down and provide you with some tangible information where you can learn discernment and learn a little bit about oh my gosh, like I'm giving my energy away here. Is this why I feel depleted? Because you may not even realize it? I'm going to ask you to share this episode. Share it on Facebook, share it on Instagram, share it with a friend through message or whatever works for you, but I ask you to share it because this is how I've been getting amazing guests and topics every single week, because this is how people learn a lot of the time.

Sandy Kruse: 3:15

Yes, I post on social media. By the way, follow me on Instagram, sandy K Nutrition, facebook, tiktok anywhere you do social media. I'm on YouTube, I'm on Rumble. It's Sandy K Nutrition everywhere. So, yes, I do post on those social media platforms just to create awareness. However, when you share with a friend, I think it's just more powerful. However, when you share with a friend, I think it's just more powerful, and when you engage with my content, it's also very powerful, because I don't know if a lot of people realize that when you like or comment or share my post on social media, you are actually helping the algorithm to show my post to other people. And, yes, it's an energy exchange, which is everything that we are talking about today. My friends, if you like my content, tell me you like it, because that actually creates a positive energy exchange and it is a form of reciprocity.

Sandy Kruse: 4:27

I consider it as a thank you. So if you go to somebody's house for dinner and they make a wonderful dinner for you, do you say thank you? Yes, you do so. When you do these kinds of things for me, of things for me, it's a thank you. That's what it is, and everything that I do is passion over profit. So when you do this for me, it just it helps me to keep going. And it's over five years and I am just about to hit 1.4 million downloads.

Sandy Kruse: 5:07

You guys, I'm not a celebrity, I'm not anybody, you know, in this giant world of podcasters, but what I'm doing is I'm trying to put good out there and I'm trying to put information out there, not to dictate what is health, but to help you decipher your best health. Something that I also do is I write. I am an English literature graduate as well as a registered holistic nutritionist, as well as a certified metabolic balance coach nutritionist as well as a certified metabolic balance coach. And I'm some chick who's going through menopause without a thyroid gland because I had thyroid cancer at 41. So my entire passion and premise in this world is to share that there are different ways that we can do things outside of what mainstream media or what one doctor tells us or what one influencer tells us. So if you resonate with what I'm doing, please follow me on the socials Sandy K Nutrition everywhere and follow my short essays that I write. I am starting to go a little bit more on to mediumcom. I'm on Substack sandycruisesubstackcom. Follow me there. These are not articles to tell you what is healthy and what is not. It's just there to help you, to explore what makes sense for you in your health and to help you age better.

Sandy Kruse: 6:58

Now another endeavor is that I am working with a company called TKG Partners and Ripple Distribution, where they strategically build brands. So I have been brought on as the Director of Business Operations and Brand Manager for the Health and Beauty Channel. This is my husband's company and we have partnered because it's such an amazing synergy. He already does this. He's been doing this for many, many, many years, bringing brands to market on a B2B level to large retailers. So I've joined because I'm like man. I know a lot of smaller brands that can scale up and that are doing incredible things, but people don't know about it. So my role is to help bring better brands on the shelves in the health and beauty channel. If you have a product and you're doing great things and you're ready to scale up to the Costco's, to the Walmart's, to the Best Buy's, wherever large retailers, then please email me sandy at sandyknutritionca or sandy at tkgpartnerscom.

Sandy Kruse: 8:44

And now let's cut on through to this amazing episode with Brenda Faruja of so Brilliant. Hi everyone, welcome to Sandy K Nutrition, health and Lifestyle Queen. Today I have a return guest. Her name is Brenda Faruja of so Brilliant. Brenda is a transformational quantum energy healer with a natural ability to remove negative energy and spiritual attachments. Brenda's mission is to support those ready to liberate themselves from negative influences and elevate their consciousness from negative influences and elevate their consciousness. She offers practical, intuitive, relatable spiritual approaches to help you raise your vibration and unlock your full potential.

Sandy Kruse: 9:48

Now, we did have a recording prior to this about beam therapy and that one will be coming out before this one. But today we're going to talk about how to protect our energy in our world, where energy is just so vulnerable, and I feel like, more than ever, a conversation like this is really, really important. Only because we're giving our energy away everywhere on social media, through technology Think about chat, gpt, like AI, like we're giving ourselves away in ways that we're not even thinking about. And Brenda and I had a conversation the other day it was last week and I was like, oh my God, we need to record about this because it's just such an important topic that people don't think about. So I'm so, so happy to know you and I'm so happy that you're here again, brenda. So, with that, welcome, thank you for coming back.

Brenda Farrugia: 10:49

Thanks for having me again. It's always a pleasure chatting with you, Sandy. These conversations just kind of flow and it's a lot of fun.

Sandy Kruse: 10:56

Yeah, they do. They do. So for those of you who haven't listened to the first episode with you, I think it's important that you just kind of give us a brief introduction of your story. Maybe let us know how you just got into this reading of energy.

Brenda Farrugia: 11:16

Okay, well, you know, sometimes we're just born with it and that's really my story. I was born with it. I could see angels when I was happy, because I was in a higher vibration. When I was sad, I would see dark beings let's call them the devil things like that. But you just assume that everyone can see that like it's just like breathing, so it's no difference. It's just something that's always been with me.

Brenda Farrugia: 11:40

It wasn't until I started to tell my mom oh, mom, careful, there's that thing in the room. Or mom, the energy of the house is shifting, this is not good, the dark things. And she'd be like, what are you talking about? Stop talking like that. People are going to think you're weird. And it wasn't until like a very young age where I really started to notice.

Brenda Farrugia: 12:02

I can't talk to the average person about this, because I could see dark things jumping into, say, my father, and then he would act not so nice, his eyes would glaze over, and I'm just like I told my dad that wasn't you. That thing just jumped into your field. You did that and now you're back. So, as I got older, when I would ask my friends hey guys, do you see that, do you sense that. Do you hear things They'd be like no. It then became very apparent. I was to hide it because it was not something that was common and it was different. And then my mom's voice would always say stop telling people they're going to throw you into like a loony bin or something like that. So it scared me. I didn't want to be different, I didn't want to be weird.

Sandy Kruse: 12:44

You know, I think the energy of this whole world is changing where and I get it, I mean I so obviously I'm. I never was attuned to anything like that when I was younger, but what I was attuned to is that the way that I thought about things was different. Yes, so, and I'm an English literature graduate, and it was so funny, brenda, when I was in university I would have interpretations. You know, you would interpret Shakespeare and you would interpret all of these texts, and I always had a different interpretation. I was never like everyone else and so I was almost embarrassed about it and I was like why am I different? And I wrote a lot of poetry back in those days because I felt like that helped me to be okay with me when I was different from everyone else.

Brenda Farrugia: 13:47

Yeah, yeah, you find your outlet. My outlet was running into the forest and we had a forest close by and I would sit there with all the animals and I used to have these little birds running around bunnies, and I would talk to the trees and animals because they understood me. And you know, that's where I felt the closest to being home was in nature. And you know, as I started to realize this, I could hear people's entire self speaking. So now I'm having a conversation with a 3D person, but I'm getting so much information from them, I said, well, I'm not supposed to know this much information of them. That's not appropriate, so I would shut it down and not listen to it.

Brenda Farrugia: 14:26

So I've learned how to live in this 3D world, although there's so much information beyond it, and now I only tap in when I choose to tap in. It's easier now, but before it was like all coming at me all the time and I'm just like, like why did you just say that to me? I didn't say anything. Yeah, you did. But then I realized no, no, I'm hearing something else speak, because people have entities in their field dark, darkness and that I can hear it very well and people's darkness does not like me. So it says some very choice words to me now and then. But now I realize it's a very independent from the person itself and I can distinguish all that, so just adapt yeah.

Sandy Kruse: 15:13

Like here's the thing I started to be interested and really to understand energy about. This would be about 2011, 2012. And you know my story that I started to get into feng shui because I'm like, okay, energy, and I kind of started to play around with how the energy in my home felt and how I can move energy and how energy can be stagnant, and so that's how it began with me. And now, whatever 12, 14 years later, however long it is now I feel like in almost every situation, brenda, I can look at somebody, a complete stranger, and I could feel something, that I know something about them, even though I might not know them. So maybe, and you know, like a lot of us have this, just like you said, like we're all kind of born with this inherent ability, and I guess you could call it intuition and energy, and you know all these things mixed together. How would you explain that?

Brenda Farrugia: 16:32

Well, you know, we all are connected, for sure. And sometimes the simplest thing would be when you think of someone and they call you or they text you, how did that happen, right? That's a very simple explanation. Or when you're somewhere, you can feel someone staring at you, or you just know their presence, is there. Well, if you didn't, if we weren't energy, then how can we sense that? Or you walk in a room you can sense if a room is happy or if it's tense or if it's sad. Why? Why can we do that? Because we're energetic beings and we're tapping into energy all the time. And until we all can do it, it's just as you start to realize that you can do it or feel it.

Brenda Farrugia: 17:14

Or you know a very quick thing that I do with some clients who don't understand energy I go, just imagine you have an energetic ball in your hand and just sit quietly and just feel it and like, some people are like, oh my, I can feel it. And some people say, well, I can't do it. Well, if you're going to say you can't do it, you're going to shut it off in your brain and you can't do it. So just be open-minded and say I'm going to try, be open and that innate ability will come in and you'll feel that ball and people will feel it growing. We're energetic beings. It's like. It's so real to me that I don't you know, even question it. But if someone were to question it I just say you know what? Try it, think of someone. They'll call you. Send love to your kid, positive thoughts to your kid. Your kid might call you, say I felt your love. We were very connected to our children, right?

Sandy Kruse: 18:06

Yeah, I think that depends on your kid, of course, and you know how much partying they're doing, which is, I think. I think that's an important thing to mention, because don't you think that, brenda, like in this modern day, there's all these numbing agents, like even especially during COVID I don't know if you remembered like when you were looking at any social media, it was all these midlife moms getting drunk, talking about wine o'clock right, and so it's numbing that inherent ability, whether it's drinking, scrolling on social media, whatever it is, you're numbing it right.

Brenda Farrugia: 18:50

Yeah, yeah, I know, and I deal with so many teenagers that are numbing in so many different ways. But it's that a lot of these children, they're so sensitive and they feel the heartache of the world and they don't know how to deal with it. But when you give them that power to know that you can use this in your favor and you can protect yourself in other ways, they can slowly learn how to cope with that extra energy they're getting and slowly stop the numbing agent. But you know, I never tell someone to go cold turkey because that would be unfair. It's something that they will learn and grow and start to and they'll say hey, brenda you know what?

Brenda Farrugia: 19:28

My social media is gone down to like 20%. I'm out and about having fun with my kids. Thank you so much. But some people will go into a room and they'll get so overwhelmed by the anxiety out there, the confusion, the anger, that they go home so drained and they just like they're like I can't be out in public because of it. But when you learn you're sensitive, you can put up that protection barrier, go out, have a great time, come back not tired, fulfilled because you went out, had a great time, and instead of absorbing negative energy, you can actually send out positive energy. And that's what I do. I just send out love and light everywhere I go. So I don't get tired because I don't pick up anybody's negative energy. I just send out positive energy. But it's a practice.

Sandy Kruse: 20:15

I was going to say that's. That's that. I think that's a skill. Like we're going to talk about that and give some actual ways in which you can start to learn your own ways, because obviously, in this podcast, we're not telling you how to be. We're not like you're going to have to. We're giving you some things to think about.

Sandy Kruse: 20:40

That's the name of my new podcast coming, but this one is separate because this is long form, but you know what I mean. Like we're just talking about ways and then you have to decipher resonance and go oh yeah, this actually makes a lot of sense to me. I'm going to try this, and you're definitely great at giving different tools in different situations for individuals to try. So today we're talking more specifically about how to protect your energy, especially in a situation where you might be vulnerable, and I think this is really key, because when we're vulnerable and we're in that vulnerable space, we may let our guard down, we may not know that we are open, right, and then when we're open I'm not sure if I'm describing it right, but when we're open like that then we kind of make ourselves a little bit more vulnerable. Do you want to get into that a little bit?

Brenda Farrugia: 21:51

Yeah, first, I'd like to say that there are some people that are naturally open all the time and they don't even know it, and I was one of those people, extremely open. Anyone could read my energy, that had the ability to do it, and I didn't even know how to close myself and protect myself, and because of that I was taken advantage of energetically by many different people. But I always think all those experiences were my challenges to learn more about how to protect myself so that I can teach it. Oh, you know, I tried this. It didn't work. And I tried that it didn't work, but I tried that In this circumstance this worked. And then I just give all this information so people can try what works for them.

Brenda Farrugia: 22:32

But those people who are empathic, sensitive to energy, we do have a tendency to be more open, which is a blessing and a curse, because when you go for an energy healing with a good person, you will get a tremendous healing because you're so open. But on the other side of that is you can also pick up negative energy or be bombarded with negative energy easier. So it's kind of got that. You know that good and bad thing to it, right?

Sandy Kruse: 23:00

Yeah, and you know, I'm planning a weekend away with some of my best friends from childhood and they're still my best friends and there's a spa there and you, unless I know them and unless, like, okay, maybe I'm a little overly cautious Because, just like what you said, if you're protective enough with your energy, it's not going to impact you. But I feel like over the last few months I'm in a little bit more of a vulnerable state, so I'd rather just kind of harness and and almost like hold and take care of my energy yeah, in a situation does that make sense like it does, and and what you're doing is you're following your intuition.

Brenda Farrugia: 24:01

At this stage, you know what. No one's coming into my energy field, and that is your right. I believe the protection of our energy field comes with self-love and discernment, which is something we build over time. So I believe it's a-okay to say, no, that person is not coming close to me, no, I'm not going, I don't feel comfortable in this situation, I'm leaving. But when we're pleasers and we don't have that self-love or boundaries, even though we know our body's telling us it's not good for us, we'll still walk into it because I want to hurt that person's feeling or I want to do what all my friends are doing, and if they think this is a good thing, I'm going to go jump in. And then the more sensitive ones can actually have the most detriment from the experience, whereas your friends were fine, but you weren't. So the fact that you're listening to yourself is beautiful. It's all about empowerment and doing what feels good to you.

Sandy Kruse: 24:59

Even in a social situation. So this is just an interesting observation that probably a lot of people don't think about. I've always been more reserved with my energy, meaning I'm not touchy-feely with people I don't overly, you know, and I don't like people to overly touch me either.

Brenda Farrugia: 25:29

And like I don't know. I'm laughing because I can see you in a room where people want to touch you and you're like no, but it's because you have a light, you have an energy and there are people that are just attracted to that in a very innocent way. But there also are those energy vampires that will spot you out and say I need to touch this girl and they're going to drain you and you'll be like I'm so tired, what happened, and you're very smart that you're just like hands off. You know, hands off everyone.

Sandy Kruse: 26:01

But there is that people pleaser that you mentioned. So that aspect it's like a lot of times I struggle with that. I'm like but I want to be nice, I don't want to be mean, I don't want to tell that person don't touch me or kind of pull away. So like I don't like people touching my hair, I don't like it. And for some reason a lot of people want to touch my hair and I don't know if I'm like I don't know, but I'm like don't touch my hair, like I don't like it. And I can almost feel this, whether it's intentional or not. Intentional because I actually Intentional or not intentional because I actually I don't. I try not to go there Because sometimes you know you can misread. But intentional or not intentional, there and you and I have talked about this there are people who will take Right, you know how you see people in a room who need to touch everyone.

Sandy Kruse: 27:04

Oh yes, yes, right. You know how you see people in a room who need to touch everyone. Oh, yes, yes, right, and they're very, very flirty and I got to touch you here and I got to touch you here. It's like they're taking a little tiny piece of every person to gain that energy for themselves, whether it's their intent or not. And so I'm I'm trying to get better at that, brenda.

Brenda Farrugia: 27:27

But I recently told someone who loves to hug me and my daughter. I said no more because I can feel like and you know, I put up my protection. It's like I'm not here, I do the work, I have my light. I'm not here to just give it away at will for someone to take it. It's mine right Now. If I'm in a state where I'm sending it out, love, yeah, take it everyone. That's what I'm doing right now.

Brenda Farrugia: 27:50

But when I'm unsuspecting and you come at me, for that I've actually said no. And now the person doesn't want to be around me at all. Well, of course, because I'm not feeding what they wanted, unconsciously perhaps, maybe it's not intentional, but that's what was happening and I just like okay, enough's, enough, right, but it's all about self-love. This is, you know, I matter. But in the past, like you said, I would let anyone do anything to me. Yeah, yeah, take whatever. I'll go home exhausted. And I you know, brenda, come out with us. Yeah, I'll go out again, do it again, come home exhausted and I'm like why am I doing this? Like, what is it in me that's just allowing this to happen over and over? And it wasn't until I started to work on myself and really work on my self, love and say I matter. Now I'm very you know very adamant of where I'm going, who I'm going with and who taps into my energy.

Sandy Kruse: 28:41

Yeah, and I think for anybody who's listening, if somebody comes into your energetic field and either they're close talking or they're touching you or touching your hair, the best way is just to be like how does that make you feel? It's kind of like what you're saying. There are some times where you're like open and you're accepting and you're like how does that make you feel? It's kind of like what you're saying. There are some times where you're like open and you're accepting and you're like I'm okay with this and I'm, I'm giving the love and I'm feeling the love. But then there's sometimes where you go and you kind of. So I guess a good way is just to tap into how you're feeling.

Brenda Farrugia: 29:21

Yeah, exactly it you're. It comes down to the awareness of your body how it's feeling, your intuition, observing and then being discerning about is this good or not good for me? And over time it takes practice. I used to fail, I'm going to do really good when I go out, and then I'm like, oh, I feel so miserably, I couldn't stand up for myself. But it's just practice and learning your boundaries, and you know, it's just, it's just being human. So you know, we can just be, start to be observing like, oh my gosh, you know what this conversation is? Just making me realize how much I give and how drained I get from some of these situations. You know, and sometimes it doesn't even have to be physical contact, it could be somebody's. Just you know our energy fields go very far, right, so it's about being aware of where I'm going, who I'm going with, and not everything is can be that predictable, obviously, right.

Sandy Kruse: 30:22

I would love for you to tell the story that you told me about um one time.

Brenda Farrugia: 30:29

It was a reiki healer oh, I know exactly what you're going to. Please tell me that story tell us all the story well, this is.

Brenda Farrugia: 30:37

I was talking to clients and letting them know that when you are choosing someone to work in your field, to be discerning, to be prudent, to do your due diligence, meet the person first. And, as I was explaining that, because this is very this is your temple and you can't just let anyone tap into it. So I had a coworker of mine because I used to do energy work at work and she's like oh, brenda, I'm scared of Reiki. I can never do energy work at work. And she's like oh, brenda, I'm scared of Reiki. I can never do Reiki with you, ever, like, because of my experience. I go, what was your experience? And she, she's like I, I thought I tried Reiki.

Brenda Farrugia: 31:13

I found this girl online. I went into her house and the house felt very dark and gloomy and I wanted to run but I didn't want to be rude. She then took me into her basement, into a room, and there was this it was a scary room with a scary table and she told me to lay down and I looked at her like I, what are you going to do? She goes I'm going to give you a Reiki session. And she's like but what are you going to do with me. She says I'm going to give you my energy. Well, first all you never want to practice your energy. It should never be my energy. You're getting the flow of energy right. And this girl was terrified. But she laid down and allowed this woman, who did not look healthy, to steal her energy. When this girl left, she said she was sick and felt drained for days after. So energy work or Reiki, elicits a lot of stress and fear. So she had a session with me and I said this is the way it's really done. A, you have to feel comfortable. Are you comfortable? Yes, all right, you're not getting my energy. You're getting divine energy that flows through me. I am not the healer, I'm not doing the work, it's divinity that's doing the work. So number one I would say and I told her this and a lot of people is a practitioner should never say I'm healing you, you're getting my energy. That is not it. We're acting as a conduit. We have a gift to do that. We're creating a healing space for you to take the opportunity to heal. The healing is you're doing the healing through the space provided right. So, yeah, I've had a lot of miraculous healing for people, but I didn't do it. I created the same space I did for the other people, but that person had allowed it right. So when you have EGBGBs, that icky feeling, have the courage to say I'm leaving.

Brenda Farrugia: 33:13

I always ask my clients before, even when they come. I say are you comfortable, do you want to continue? Because maybe they're not. I usually do a discovery call first, just to ensure the energy's max. They can ask me any questions. So when you're going into a practitioner's office, make sure they have reviews. Do they have a website? Are they showing their picture? If you ask them, can I speak to some of your clients directly? The answer should be absolutely. How many do you want to speak to? Nothing should be hidden, you know, and the space that they show on their website should be the space you're going to, not a secret room in the back of their place.

Brenda Farrugia: 33:54

Because a lot of us including me in the past and I have a little bit still of it are pleasers, and when I would walk into a dangerous situation, I didn't want to hurt the person's feelings, so I would just carry through. I've been to some pretty bad healers that have actually done more damage than good and I didn't want to hurt their feelings. But that was the old version of Brenda. But now through that, through my experience and through other people's experience, I can explain what to look for. Another thing we spoke about was the packages. I don't know if I, but packages are nice.

Brenda Farrugia: 34:32

I'm not saying, you know, don't give people packages because you can give them a deal on pricing. But a package should never be forced, never, never be forced. I mean, have a session if you liked it and you want to inquire about it, fine. But if someone says you need to buy a package or they become pushy, that's a tale of the inside. No, no, no, no one should ever push you into an agreement to have a set amount.

Brenda Farrugia: 34:59

I always tell people, you know what, if you're coming, have a session once, see how you feel and you know what, if you love the session, if you would let me know, then try at least five, because five can give you huge changes. But some people only need one because they just allowed so much healing. That's all they need. But I would never force anyone. So it's that you know that energy of that, that desperation that I I need to keep you as a client. You know what A lot of my clients go and come and come and go. And I always say you know what? Now you've tried energy work, you know, go, try different modalities, but you know what to look for right.

Sandy Kruse: 35:37

Okay, that's important to note. Just be careful of that pushy salesperson feeling when you feel like you're being pushed into something. And another thing that we touched on was how a lot of times what can happen and this is obviously not we're not putting a blanket statement on all energy healers or even massage therapists or anybody who kind of gets into your field but if you're not getting better and if you're getting worse, do you want to talk about that? That be them, yeah kind of kind of keeping you there yeah, this is.

Brenda Farrugia: 36:26

This is unfortunate and this is what I see a lot in my practice is.

Brenda Farrugia: 36:30

A lot of times I'm dealing with people who have been working with a practitioner for a very long time now. It can be and I just like anyone in your energy field an acupuncturist, an energy healer, a Reiki therapist, whatever it is right and they're saying I'm not getting better. And when I said to my practitioner that I'm leaving suddenly I even got worse. I'm feeling sicker. And when they come to me because I have the ability to tell what I'm seeing and it's not in every case, but a lot of cases is that energy practitioner? I'm going to say they're not healers, they pretend to be so. With any, with any career, with any profession there can be, you know, people in there using it for the wrong reasons and sometimes they will use it for the wrong reason, get clients and do an energetic core, because they know how I work with only the family of light, light beings, with love and light, and everyone has free will to come see me or not. But there are other practitioners that work with the other energy, which is more I. You're my client. You can't see anyone else and if you go to someone else, I'm going to hurt you, and they will do something to their field and kind of an attach a cord, an energetic cord, and if they feel that client's not coming enough, they'll tug on the cord so they'll make them feel sick. And then, oh, I need to go see the person. And then, if they get fed up, there's their inner being saying you know, this isn't good for you. They start to wake up and say you know, this isn't good for you. They start to wake up and say you know what I'm leaving you. They can actually get even worse and that's because that practitioner may be doing something to hurt the person. So what happens when they come see me is I actually have to cut all those energetic cords, repair their field and say if that practitioner calls you, texts you, no contact done, you're clear from them, but don't go back to them. Right? They don't have to necessarily see me, but at least now do your due diligence and go with someone who feels better to you, right? A lot of people meet the wrong practitioners because they're in a bad space at that time, so they're lower energy, they're attracting lower energy and that's what happened to me.

Brenda Farrugia: 38:43

My practitioner that I used was actually harming me. She told me once this is when I was like I didn't even know I had a gift. Like she said to me, you'll never get as more powerful than me. What did that mean? It went over my head, you know, didn't even make sense. But somebody heard her say that she goes. You better watch out. Look what she said to you. I said no, no, no, she really cares for me, she's helping me. But then, years later, I found out how much damage she did to my energetic field that I had to have repaired by someone much kinder and much more loving. So there's a little thing in the background that people aren't aware of, so thing in the background that people aren't aware of. So the best advice I can give is do your due diligence and, let's say, you start working with a practitioner or you're telling your friends, hey, I'm going to go work with this person, and they all go. Are you sure you want to work with that? They might be seeing something that you don't see and they're trying to protect you. So be open-minded. You know, say you know what. Or if you missed an appointment, did they get angry that you missed the appointment? Do they want you to pay for the appointment. Oh yeah, feel their tone right.

Brenda Farrugia: 39:52

I went to a beautiful practitioner, an osteopath, and I honestly missed her appointment. I did, you know? And she says you know what, brenda, this is your first appointment, big deal, just reschedule. I said, well, I'll pay if you don't even worry about it. It would be fine if she said pay like a missed fee. But there was a kindness there. I could feel it and I trusted her with my energy. But sometimes I hear the horror stories. One lady was going to this practitioner actually was being done remotely some girl in the states she was seeing and she told her I need to stop coming. And you know what she said. She said, no, you have to keep coming, but now your price is going higher. I mean, who does that? So warning signs, warning signs, warning signs.

Sandy Kruse: 40:41

Yes.

Brenda Farrugia: 40:42

Yes, and when you.

Sandy Kruse: 40:44

I think a very important point to just kind of stand on for a second is when you are in a lower vibrational state. Right, you may be attracting lower vibrational help. So I just think it's so important to just kind of pause for a second and think about that so often. And when you vibrate low okay, we're not always a lot of times it relates to our physical illness that we may be having. I have a sore back, I need to go see a massage therapist, but how am I vibrating? How am I feeling? Am I feeling low overall? So the reason I say that is I remember after I had my thyroid out, brenda, I got with a practitioner and it was like I could never get better.

Sandy Kruse: 41:47

And then it was like you need to do this test now, and this test is $500. And now you need to do this test and let's do a little bit more investigation with this test. And meanwhile, bit more investigation with this test, and meanwhile, thousands and thousands of dollars later, I'm like this doesn't feel right, like I'm not getting better. And so during that time I actually started to work with a shaman because vibrationally I was very low and I was in that victim state. You know, my daughter had just had cancer. Now I have cancer and I can't feel like who I used to be.

Sandy Kruse: 42:27

So I worked with a practitioner and honestly, you know how you say there was people who just kind of saved you. In situations that saved you, I still look back at her and go. I feel like she almost, like, picked me up and pulled me out of that situation and set me down gently and said no, we're going to go from here, I'm going to help you, and she did. So I think that these little important notes are important to take note of, especially now, because people can do damage, even virtually, and we should talk about that one thing that blows my mind.

Brenda Farrugia: 43:22

I'm more of a content creator. I'm not one that pulls in because there's so many things on here. There's a lot of good stuff and there's a lot of not so. But sometimes if I'm just taking a peek, I get really like blown away. And this.

Brenda Farrugia: 43:34

I may not be popular for saying this, but there's some energy healers out there that will say I'm going to give you this energy, say yes to it right now, say yes. And then people say they're feeling and they'll make comments. I say yes, I'm feeling the energy. Yeah, you're feeling the energy, but where is that energy coming from people? Why? I'm not saying they're all with malintent, but you really need to be careful who you're saying yes to, and you know people can send you energy just by sending it without your intent. Now they're saying say yes to this energy and then watch their words. They might say my energy. They're not. You know creating a safe space to allow divine to come through. And they're saying you know creating a safe space to allow divine to come through and they're saying say yes. So I would Cautious, caution people to be careful what they're saying yes to and being so open to a meditation like that or energy healing.

Brenda Farrugia: 44:33

A lot of clients come in and say, brenda, I did this thing online, I got this like I was, I felt good, and since then I'm having nightmares and I don't know what's going on. I'm not the same person and they have interference in their field, which we have to clear. And a learned lesson be careful. What you say yes to this is your field, protect it. And it's great that story you said about that person that was taking advantage.

Brenda Farrugia: 44:58

Your inner being woke you up and say this isn't right and you listened. So a lot of us will get that this isn't right and we'll ignore, and that's the self-love thing. But as you start to really tap into your intuition and listen what I do, I wake up every morning and I ask for discernment and wisdom and that my higher mind, divine mind, lead my day, because I I used to kind of live life through my emotional response, my, I don't know my need to help everyone and it always got me in trouble. So I now I I'm asking for you know that connection to like show me the wisdom, show me that, show me what's really going on here. That's another powerful ask. Show me what's really going on here, you know, reveal the truth about this person and they will slip up and say something evil and you'll be like I knew it right, yes, and it you know.

Sandy Kruse: 46:02

one thing I will say, and maybe you've heard this if you dull your innate ability to be able to sense these things, then it's going to be harder. It's kind of going back a little bit to what we talked about, but I want to ask you this have you ever heard okay, you know, back in the day they used to call alcohol spirits. I don't know, because, like I'm not either way, I'm always about the balance. I'll have a few drinks here and there in certain situations. I don't drink very often but I have heard that there's a reason why alcohol is called spirits because you kind of open yourself up energetically to potential issues. What are your thoughts on that?

Brenda Farrugia: 46:58

You can give me a whole different track here.

Sandy Kruse: 47:02

Still, still, I had to bring it up because we're talking about being able to tap into that energy, so it's important to say certain things can numb that for you.

Brenda Farrugia: 47:13

Yeah, yeah, I was a big drinker back in the day and those were my darkest days. I constantly got into trouble because my interference was so high. I no longer drink, I am much more clear and I live a healthier, more positive life and make positive choices. Is there a correlation there? Absolutely, from my perspective. But am I going to tell people they shouldn't drink or not to drink? Not my business, but it's nice to know that. You know it might have something.

Brenda Farrugia: 47:46

One thing that I would totally, very firmly say do not get passed out in a bar, like, do not drink excessively that you pass out because you are so open. Entities will walk into your field and I do a lot of clearings of those cases and they'll say oh, you know, my 40th birthday, I got so plastered I got passed out. Since then I haven't been the same. Yeah, so kind of your point. We need to be careful where we're at, what we're doing and keeping our field clear, yeah. So, yeah, good, good conversation. There'm not going to take you off on a wild run here, because that's kind of my specialty, but yeah, we'll keep this to what this is today.

Sandy Kruse: 48:30

Okay, no, that's fair. I just think it's important to bring it up, yeah. People don't realize that certain things can numb and dull these natural senses.

Brenda Farrugia: 48:42

Well, think about I don't know if this is too controversial to say.

Sandy Kruse: 48:47

You say whatever you want, girlfriend, all right.

Brenda Farrugia: 48:49

Let's just say this During lockdown, why were some things able to stay open and some things were not? Some things were not, some promote more negative energy and some don't. So it was very interesting to see that perspective of what could stay open and what could not stay open. And if you're attuned to your energy, I mean you can keep it strong and no matter what. But there's that temptation per se to go down. The other route was easily accessible and it's it's. It is what it is Right and unfortunately, during that time, a lot of people became alcoholics to numb, which was, you know, benefit for some, some thing perhaps right.

Brenda Farrugia: 49:38

I am about helping people. You know I create the space so they can release the interference that comes through and they can make the right decisions for themselves, to become more who they truly are. And that's really what we're doing at this point for people who are working on themselves, finding out who we truly are, by releasing that interference that shouldn't be there and bringing in more light. And you want to do that with a safe practitioner, someone you trust, and not just with anybody you see on the internet saying let me give you your energy. I've had people say why don't you do those calls. Or you're saying, give me a senior, and I'm like people say, why don't you do those calls? Or you say, give me a senior? And I'm like I could never do that. Yeah, my ratings would go up. But that's not me.

Brenda Farrugia: 50:24

I was offering for four years, group healing calls every week in a very safe container. They started on zoom and then they went to YouTube live. I actually stopped them on YouTube live because what was happening is with it. With the zoom calls, I had people register, I knew who was be there, but when I started opening on YouTube live, what I noticed is we had a really nice group that we just shifted over. But then I started feeling energies of Perhaps people that were there for the wrong intent and then I have to use extra energy to keep them at bay while keeping everyone else safe and like I'm expending way too much energy to keep everyone safe. So we stop that. We're back into the nice safe container again. So be careful what you jump into.

Brenda Farrugia: 51:15

Go with that gut feeling, ask your higher self, ask your soul, ask your spirit guides. Is this really beneficial for me? And if you're a very confused person because you don't know what's right or wrong, because we can be numb because of all the trauma and things we've been through, that you might not know the right answer. Perhaps ask a wise friend. I once had a very wise friend that said stay away from that woman, I don't like her. And I said you're out of your mind. She's so nice to me. She's like she's nice to you for a reason. Brenda, they can be very charismatic. They can be the nicest person. It doesn't always mean that the intent is the right intent.

Sandy Kruse: 51:59

The other thing I think it's important to note. So this is going back from when Facebook first started. This is a long time ago. I got some years on me, but my kids were little and my husband's like don't ever put our kids' faces on Facebook, don't ever put our kids faces on Facebook. And I remember saying to him but you know, like it's only friends on Facebook, like it's not open, and he's like please don't do that, please don't. They're my kids too, please don't do that, and I think it's important to note so.

Sandy Kruse: 52:35

So for me, unfortunately, my face is kind of everywhere and a lot of times I can't control what somebody thinks about me and they may not like what I'm saying, they may not like what I'm putting out there.

Sandy Kruse: 53:07

Or if you're not in a public space and you have your children who are on your social media and this was what and since then this is a long time ago I'm like, oh my God, like I'm so glad I didn't do that. Now they're adults, it's their choice, they have free will, they can do whatever they want in that sense in terms of putting their faces on social media. But you know, I know that not everybody has good intent, even if you're in a private space you may have somebody from high school who might resent you and say, oh my God, like Sandy bragging about her kids again, like you almost have to, you have to. It's like that discernment. But for me I'm in that public space, like, what about? Like you hear about psychic attacks and poison arrows and all these different things that can come at you from just your picture.

Brenda Farrugia: 54:03

Yeah, actually what you're speaking about has truth and I actually specialize in this and I went to training for it and I was dealing with clients for many years and they would ask me do you believe in black magic? Do you believe in the nocola? Do you believe in black magic? Do you believe in the nokla? Do you believe in the evil eye? And I said I know about it but I don't work with that, I only work with love. So I don't understand it. But it became such a request that I fell into. I asked the universe who can I learn that's safe to learn from? And I fell into the arms of a phd in Ohio and her husband and I worked with them for eight days and learned about all the different ways.

Brenda Farrugia: 54:48

Someone like me works with the light, but there are practitioners that work with dark energy, that learn how to manipulate dark energy to do exactly what you're saying To cause turmoil in someone's life that they don't even know. A lot of the work I do is breaking black magic and I put out videos about it and I get comments about from witches saying this is like. This is like crazy talk, but telling me you want to go, let's see how powerful you are. I'm just like I'm not engaging in fight. I don't fight. You know, there's nothing, I just let it simmer down. That's what I'm wanting to get in. But there are two sides. There is a battle between light and dark, but it's just contrast and what side you choose on. But there are people, more than ever before, that are choosing the side of dark practitioners, dark magic, because when they hurt someone like you, someone who's shining the light, you know the. Your light is needed on the planet, your information is needed on the planet so people can make choices that are helping themselves be better. But the dark energy of this planet and practitioners don't want that to happen, so they'll kind of do things. So there are psychic attacks, there are those things, but the best thing to do really is, as you start to really work on yourself and create this huge field of light. They can't even come through. But we all have subconscious beliefs. But what are subconscious beliefs? Some of us, like myself in the past, were more, we're more open to dark attacks. If I can say that I've had my share amount to the point where actually I had cults attacking me because I was helping someone release from one. Psychic attacks from all over the world. They almost took my life, but what they also taught me is how powerful the light on this planet is and how powerful I can bring in that light to dissolve it. I'm still here, I'm wiser.

Brenda Farrugia: 57:04

I love to teach people how to protect themselves. And if you are in the public eye, there are things and I think I agree with your husband not putting your children on those streams where they're just so open, because if someone has something against you, what is our biggest weakness? Our children, right, so they can attack that way. So it's not to scare people like my. The last thing I want to do is scare people, but it is to make them aware and I just getting this.

Brenda Farrugia: 57:36

So sometimes when I'm dealing with black magic where, like, family is being attacked by black magic, but there's usually one person in the household, sometimes two, that have no effects of the black magic at all, nothing, and they're like how can this be happening? I'm not being bothered at all. Well, his belief systems are different. His themes he came in to deal with on this planet are different. So it can.

Brenda Farrugia: 58:06

People are susceptible due to their belief systems that are hiding in the background.

Brenda Farrugia: 58:10

Even when I said back in the day, I'm not bothered by black magic, I was still being attacked. I'm like how is that possible? So I deeply had to go to the roots of my belief systems, say what is it in me that's allowing this to come through, it's lack of self love? It has to do with past lives, although it's not really past lives. That's gonna be a whole different topic. It could be the themes I came to experience. It's multi dimensional beings. So I, when someone comes to sit in front of multi dimensional beings, so I, when someone comes to sit in front of me, says Brenda, I gotta tell you something. You won't believe what's going on in my life and you're gonna think I'm insane. I stay very open minded Because I was once in that person's situation saying no one's gonna believe what I'm going through because I'm being attacked energetically. I can feel it, I'm drained. No one understands it. So it is a thing, but it's not a thing for everyone. So you do what you can to protect yourself and your children.

Sandy Kruse: 59:10

So, okay, one of the things that I do regularly is I try and get as close as I can to nature every day, every single day. If I don't do that, I feel off, I feel like you know, and speaking of you know, we were talking about the pandemic. At one point they were telling us that we weren't even allowed to go outside, right, and I'm like, screw that, I'm going for my walks because this is the only thing that's keeping me sane right now. So I was a rule breaker for my own mental sanity. But there are a number of things and you know, it's interesting because there's a lot of people online who label themselves as this or as that, like very specific labels, like I am the witch of the north, I am like I'm just kidding, but you see that and they actually give you all these spells and then they tell you to it. You go oh my gosh, like it's everywhere, and then you have that connection as soon as you do that.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:00:50

You know what it's. This is a totally a very, a very touchy point, like for me, because I've been attacked by black magic and it destroyed my life so many times. But I've overcome it and it bothers me or it doesn't bother me, but just I just like to educate people because sometimes I see families falling apart and that's what's happening. And there's people blatantly doing it and proud of it. This is like I don't know. I don't understand that mindset. I don't want to judge it because obviously that person must be really hurting and gone through so much trauma to think that they have to hurt people to feel better. Like that's sad, it's sad, so I don't want to judge them. And another thing is when I break back black magic, well, when I say it's me, it's not me. I have a team that I work with and when black magic is broken, we never send back negative energy to the one that's doing it. Instead we send love because the reason they're misguided is they're hurting as well. We're all divine beings, so if that person needs love, we'll put a cord from them to divinity so they'll get the love they need. But we never send, like some people say oh you want to go, let's see what you have. All I'm going to send you is love, and you can't fight love. You can heal from it, but you can't fight love. You can heal from it, but you can't fight it. So I kind of got a little bit off track there. But the key is people are doing it and there's actually sign ups. I've actually had invitations to join the dark side. Oh, you can become this and fade. I don't care about fame, I care about the love within me, whoever. If I can change one person's life, then that changes another person's life. But they try to tempt you with, you know, money, this fame, all that stuff. But some people like that and they'll start dabbling into it and then they'll get stronger, because the more damage they do on a subject, they get stronger and more powerful. So what people will notice if they've had a black magic attack? It starts off little things, then gets to much bigger things and then much bigger things, then spreads to the kids and the house and the whole family and then at that point they're like what the heck is going on? That's when they call me, but it's better to call when it's just starting. Things are going off. I don't feel myself.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:03:28

I spoke with this woman. She gave me the and I don't like it, and then we can kind of get it before it gets too deeply rooted. It's like a seed that grows and it's not not everyone's susceptible to this kind of stuff. Like I said, it has to do with the themes we came here to learn. But what I would say, a generalality, is empathic people, ones that had the pleasers, the ones that lack self love, are a little more susceptible to it. And then that strong, balanced person in the house they're like they don't have that programming so it just kind of like it can't touch them, but it can be real for some people who are suffering from it. So if someone's telling you in your household and you might be listening to this and saying, oh, this makes no sense. But maybe you have someone, a friend or someone in your household that's saying like I'm not feeling right, but I don't know what it is, give them the benefit of the doubt. Give them the benefit of the doubt because they might be experiencing something that you can't understand.

Sandy Kruse: 1:04:35

I mean in health and wellness. There are some really, really good examples of exactly what you're talking about. So there's the you know, the energetic that you can't you can't do a diagnostic test for, but it's kind of like you have mold in the house. We talked about this, brenda. There's mold in the house and we have four family members and only two of them actually got sick from the mold and the other two are fine. It's because there's something within them that's more resilient. It's just like epigenetics. Well, what causes certain genetic expressions to happen in some family members but not in others? Like autoimmune conditions? You're in some sort of a weakened and maybe weakened state is not the right term but there's something that's keeping you down that makes you more susceptible to the things that you maybe don't really want. Does that?

Brenda Farrugia: 1:05:45

make sense. It makes sense because we're all unique. We all came here with our own missions, our own soul missions, our own things to learn and explore and experience. So what I came with, I'm going to be bothered and triggered by the things I came to explore. Whereas someone may have come in, you know, some people have just come in on planet earth to be human and enjoy life and those are the people that I know and see thriving and having fun and nothing bothers them and I used to be jealous, but now I understand what it is. They came in to be human and enjoy this beautiful planet. Some of us came in to learn things, hold the light as we go through these changes on earth, and because of that we have to learn our lessons, which kind of hit us down, down, down down so we catapult up to hold the light really bright for those who are following. So it's a very unique individual circumstance.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:06:47

So I never discount somebody's certain. You know the situations they're in, what they're feeling, what they're hearing. No one's crazy, even when people say brend, there's an entity in my field and it's talking to me and telling me to kill myself. I've had one of those too. I understand. So let's let it go, and we do it through love and if the person's ready, they'll let it go and they'll continue their journey on health and getting better and better. But there's no judgment in anything.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:07:19

But there are some people that don't want to heal the victim. Mentality will just say you is funny, you always. You always have people who want to prove that what I do or what someone does doesn't work. And they'll come in saying I'm coming to see you to prove that this is not going to work for me. I always say it's not going to work for you.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:07:39

So why waste your time? Why waste your money? Why waste my time and money? Because I need to prove it's not going to work? All right, that's really. That makes no sense to me, but sure. But I always say to them why not just change your perspective, at least to a point of I'm open to try it and whatever happens happens, and if they can get to that neutral level, they usually benefit. But if they say that negative is not going to work and you can just feel them tense during all the clothes, it's like why waste their time? But maybe that's the experience they needed from me to realize that it's not going to work for them, and so be it. So I don't take things personally. When they come at me that way, I was like, okay, you know what this might be part of the healing they need. So it is what it is right.

Sandy Kruse: 1:08:28

So let's wrap up, let's, if you're kind of just starting to understand energy and this conversation really resonates where can someone begin to maybe strengthen their energetic field, raise their vibration? How do you even start? Where do you start?

Brenda Farrugia: 1:08:54

I would say 15 minutes a day just connecting to yourself, and it can be as simple as shut off everything and sit quietly and just breathe. You don't have to meditate, just breathe in some type of awareness, feeling your body and talking to yourself. And it doesn't matter what you believe in, you can call it God, angels, the universe, whatever, whatever resonates with you. And sometimes, just simply sitting quiet and saying are you really there? You'll probably feel this beautiful sensation saying, yeah, we're here. We all have spirit guys, we all have a support team that's so large. They're speaking to us, but it's not. We're just not listening. So, quiet time just. And some people say, well, I'm a mom.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:09:47

This is how I started when I, you know, I shut off my gifts. I shut, I took a break from all that and I just became an automatic person living a life until my body was going to fail. And that's why I had to wake up once again. And when I did, I sat quietly and said what am I here for? And then it just opened up because I gave permission Show me what I need to know.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:10:12

So it's simply asking when you're ready, just simply ask why am I here? Who am I? Show me. You're here, open the gates of communication and you'll start to feel it in your body and you might have a good cry because you're remembering who you are. And 15 minutes a day. And if you can't do 15 minutes because you're busy, like I said, I was with a when I had kids. I was doing it for two minutes a day and I would go hide in a walk-in closet and then it felt so good those two minutes that I extended to four minutes and then I became selfish and said I need 15 minutes to myself. Go play Right. So you'll start to build that love, that connection.

Sandy Kruse: 1:10:57

Yeah, I think that is an absolutely beautiful way to start and end our conversation. So, for those of you listening, a great way to start and a great way for us to end, and I really have to say I appreciate you so much, brenda, and I loved this conversation so so much. Thanks for having me there.

Brenda Farrugia: 1:11:20

They're always fun and I don this conversation, so so much Thanks for having me. They're always fun and I don't know where the time goes, so it's such a pleasure. Thanks again.

Sandy Kruse: 1:11:29

I hope you enjoyed this episode. Be sure to share it with someone you know might benefit, and always remember when you rate, review, subscribe, you help to support my content and help me to keep going and bringing these conversations to you each and every week. Join me next week for a new topic, new guest, new exciting conversations to help you live your best life.